I was just talking with a submissive friend (male) who was going on and on and then on some more about “escalation” of fantasy, and on how it makes masochism dangerous.
I was listening as quietly as I could for a very long time until I had to interrupt to say, “yes, but that’s not for everyone.” *long pause*
him: “really?”
Appears that so much fiction that he’s secreted away since his wee years is about the escalation that he’s decided that to indulge his masochism means he’ll inevitably end up dead or a castrated house slave beaten within an inch of his life, when he hasn’t been left in a cage with barely any water for years on end.
All that as the end result of a little pain play between lovers? In his mind, evidently.
Took a bit for me to explain to him, no. No. And really, no. That isn’t the inevitable end. There’s so much pleasure in the little things and sometimes, really, over stimulation is just over stimulation.
